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About thewritersadvice

Jai is a full-time writer in the Pacific Northwest. An award winning journalist and published author, Jai writes mystery thrillers, ghost writes articles and books as well as feature articles for several national magazines.

What You Think I Meant is Not What I Said

I have a book out that is a story inspired by actually events that took place during the Vietnam War. The story was “inspired” by the events, not taken from the actual events. That means that I took a story that someone told me and then created my own story loosely based on that original story. I found the original story so intriguing that it triggered a round of “what if’s” in my mind and poof….a new story was born. That new story is a work of fiction. So why then do I get emails asking if the story is a metaphor for the war in Vietnam? Or a metaphor of the times we live in now? Or a statement about war in general? The answer…because people need to get a life.

No matter what you create, if you get published there will be a sector of people out there who are trying desperately to get something else out of your story. We live in strange times when people seek out the “hidden message” in absolutely everything…it’s frustrating. Sometimes blue curtains are just blue. Remember in English class when the teacher would give you an assignment to read a story and then gleam the “meaning” off of it? I hated those assignments because, in my mind, I was being asked to get inside the authors head instead of just enjoying the story. When tasked with something like this reading becomes work and frankly, I don’t want my reading to be work. Sometimes a story is just….well….a story.

Sometimes, as writers, we can fall into the trap of trying to insert metaphors where there ought not to be any. If you are struggling to create a story where there is a hidden meaning….stop it. It has been my experience that if a writer has more to say within a story it will eventually come out. Just because the main character is staring at the blue curtains doesn’t mean that he is depressed or secretly wishes for a male child….sometimes he’s staring that the blue curtains for an entirely normal reason like they are ugly or maybe…just maybe….they are the only curtains in the room he is standing in and the story actually lies beyond the curtains…outside the window. Getting hung up on the “meaning” behind the blue curtains can cause you to never look outside the window!

So here’s the deal….sometimes what you think I meant (or any writer for that matter) is not what I said. Maybe instead of focusing on the “hidden meaning” that many not actually be there…maybe you should just read the damn story and enjoy it. Yes there are some writers out there who struggle to assign meaning to a piece but they obviously have way too much time on their hands and are not actually interested in telling a good story but instead want to somehow “enlighten” their readers. More power to those folks but if you find yourself trying to force the metaphors…stop it. Just tell the story and let the reader see what they want to…trust me…they are gonna do that anyway because in this day and age we are all just a little paranoid. I’m off to get a sandwich because I’m hungry….or maybe I’m not hungry, maybe I am in some kind of emotional pain that is causing a hole in my soul….nope….just hungry. (See what I mean?)

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Posted by on May 12, 2015 in Writing


What to do When the Person Not Taking Your Advice is You

Seriously…some days I hear things come out of my mouth that make me feel sooooooooo stupid; yesterday was one of those days. My oldest son and his partner came to visit for Mother’s Day and they brought his partners brother along. Ryan is a budding writer who really wants to make his living at it one day. He has expressed an interest in meeting me, the seasoned writer in the family, for some time and yesterday it finally happened. It’s interesting because Ryan had hoped to gleam some writing wisdom from me, and maybe he did, but so did I.

We moved about a month ago and for some strange reason I hadn’t seemed to move my desire to write with me. I think that with all the packing and moving I just had excused my way out of writing. I kept telling myself that I would get “back into it” but as of yesterday I was still procrastinating. When the boys showed up I realized that Ryan’s desire was strong and I felt an obligation to offer some solid advice. So what do I hear coming out of my mouth? I looked that boy straight in the eye and said, “you have to write every day.” And then I waited for lightening to strike me…….

The advice I gave Ryan was solid…you do have to write every day. My problem was that I realized, as soon as I said it, that I hadn’t been doing so myself. I had used out move as an excuse to let my work fall by the way-side and now I was having tons of problems getting back in. That happens when you let the writing go for a period of time…it’s like a muscle and if you don’t work it every day it gets stiff; I was stiff to the point of becoming Jai the Statue.

So I went to bed last night feeling like a failure in that I wasn’t actually doing the thing I had told young Ryan he should do in order to be a writer. I wallowed in self-pity for about a half hour and then it occurred to me…I can change this. So here I am this morning, striving to be the good mentor I wish to be, and I’m writing. The advice I gave Ryan was solid…as a writer you must write every single day, even if it’s just a little. It’s really good advice…I’m going to take it…how about you?

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Posted by on May 11, 2015 in Writing


My Oughtobiography

A Bucket List. I had a writer friend told me yesterday that I need a Bucket List. All I could think about after she made that suggestion was, why, so I can torture myself with an actual list of crap I don’t have time to do? Her logic was that we aren’t getting any younger and it would suck to die not having done the things that I really wanted to do. I, of course, just sat there wondering why my demise was so important to anyone else besides those who stand the chance of inheriting my marble collection. The truth is we, as a society, are obsessed with what we “ought” to do.

I set aside a little time every day that I call my “Crap…I didn’t do that” period. This is a period of time where I get to sit and commiserate over the fact that I still haven’t reached some of the goals I have set for myself. Sounds a bit like a pity party but it really isn’t. It’s actually a chance to see just how affected I am for not having completed certain tasks. If I find that I am feeling overwhelmingly guilty about such a task I forward it to the next day so I can take yet another stab at it. If I discover that I don’t care that I didn’t complete the task at all I drop it…forever.

We spend a lot of time in our lives worried about stuff we need to do and often we do this without actually asking ourselves if we really “ought” to do that stuff in the first place. The romantic notion of a Bucket List is appealing but for me personally I don’t see a need to torture myself with yet another list of oughts. Are there things I want to do before I take the dirt nap, well sure there is, I wouldn’t be human if there weren’t, but should I torture myself with taking the time to write out a list etching into history my possible failures…nope. I should spend that time doing stuff now.

We writers are notorious for making ourselves suffer. We seem to feel like we need to in order to be writers, but take it from me, this is one area you can let it go. Our to-do list is already huge because with the bevy of characters trapped inside our heads we already have a full plate. So don’t create a Bucket List, instead just do it. After all you really never know when the dude with the sickle will visit anyway…why waste any of that time making yet another list.

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Posted by on March 18, 2015 in Writing


Writing Pebbles #18

Like throwing a pebble into the water some writers put advice out into the ocean of hopeful newbies hoping the ripple effects will reach them and they will learn a thing or two. Here at The Writer’s Advice it is pebble collection time. I will post some of the pebbles of wisdom I discover and I encourage you all to do the same. We will help each other. So here are mine….show me yours!

5 Successful Authors On How They Overcame Creative Blocks To Write Their First Book –

How to Create a Writing, Publishing and Marketing Plan for the Year [Includes Template] –

5 Amazing Summer Writing Retreats –

13 Tips for Writing a Novel –

34 Writing Tips That Will Make You a Better Writer –



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Posted by on February 13, 2015 in Writing, Writing Tools


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Sharing Once Again….


Like every writer I am constantly looking for writing resources. Here is a great piece I wanted to share with a ton of fantastic resources!

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Posted by on February 11, 2015 in Writing


Had to Share This!

sharingEvery now and again I come across something just have to is one of those things….

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Posted by on February 10, 2015 in Writing


I’ve Done it! I’ve Finally Killed Time!

thWe live by the clock. We have watches, cell phones with clocks, clocks on the wall, reminders and even annoying little beeping sounds that come from our computers reminding us of the time. It’s enough to drive you a little nuts. I myself tend to over compensate for time and deadlines. I am a “scheduler”…one of those people who try to schedule out my time so that I am spending time on many projects instead of getting mired down on one. I like to think that doing this keeps me sane but lately I have been wondering if I am doing myself more harm than good.

I had a writer friend tell me that other day that she killed her clock. When I laughed she said, “no, really, I did…I killed it”. When I pushed for an explanation she told me that she had decided to try to write at least one day a week with no time constraints. She would get up on a designated morning and just work on whatever came to mind. She told me that on that first day she did better writing than she had in almost a year. She explained that without the time constraints she didn’t feel anxious but instead felt free to do what she wanted to do. She just let it flow and when it did, it was beautiful.

She did go on to explain that she only did this new “dead time” writing once a week because she still had other projects to take care of that did require deadlines but for at least one day a week she now has her “dead time” writing. I had to try it so yesterday I did and you know what….it works!

I spent the day on a project that I had a deep passion for and I didn’t worry about anything else the entire day. Like my friend I discovered that this “dead time” writing was a God-send. I did some of the best work on that project and when the day was over I felt…well…not to sound corny but…fulfilled.

I now have that “dead time” on my calendar at least one day each week. I think that it is really going to help me regroup and get reoriented to my work. Let’s be honest, the ideal writer’s life would be one project at a time with enough money in the bank to keep buying food while you work…sadly…it doesn’t work that way and our Great American Novel is sustained on a million freelance jobs that require…well…scheduling.

I challenge you my writing friends to give “dead time” writing a chance. Let me know by posting here how it works for you. Maybe, just maybe, we have a small movement on our hands!

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Posted by on February 2, 2015 in Writing, Writing Tools


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